Pull up a chair, and put up your feet. It’s story time! I don’t know if you have ever researched your family tree, but I have had some success in finding out a fair bit about mine. Among the more interesting stories have been tales of conflict with the church. This is the first of what will be a series of three.
Let me start with the story of my great, great, great, etc. uncle, Reginald Fitzurse. If you have read or seen the play “Murder in the Cathedral”, by T.S. Eliot, you may very well already know the story. Reginald was a knight in the court of King Henry II of England (among other territories), way back in the 1160s. King Henry had an ongoing intensifying conflict with the Archbishop of Cantebury, Thomas Beckett. They spent the better part of five years trying to make life increasingly difficult for each other. Things came to a head in 1169 when Henry needed the services of the Archbishop.
By 1169, however, Henry had decided to crown his son Young Henry as king of England. This required the acquiescence of Becket as the Archbishop of Canterbury, traditionally the churchman with the right to conduct the ceremony. Furthermore, the whole Becket matter was an increasing international embarrassment to Henry. He began to take a more conciliatory tone with Becket but, when this failed, had Young Henry crowned anyway by the Archbishop of York. Becket was allowed to lay an interdict on England, forcing Henry back to negotiations; they finally came to terms in July 1170, and Becket returned to England in early December. Just when the dispute seemed resolved, however, Becket excommunicated another three supporters of Henry: the King was furious and infamously announced “What miserable drones and traitors have I nourished and promoted in my household, who let their lord be treated with such shameful contempt by a low-born clerk!” (Wikipedia – Henry II of England)
Reginald overheard that outburst and decided to take matters into his own hands. He and three other knights set off from France where the court was located, and met up again in England to plan their moves.
The conspirators crossed over to England, and gathered at Saltwood Castle, near Hythe. Saltwood was a possession of the Archbishop, but it had been usurped by Randolph de Brock, another of Beckets enemies. On the 29th of December, the Knights and their men rode forth from Saltwood to Canterbury, and sought out the Archbishop in his palace adjacent to the Cathedral. Bitter words and recriminations were exchanged in a fruitless interview. Later in the day the Knights again approached the palace with their weapons under their cloaks. The monks, anxious for their own safety as well as for their master, endeavoured to drag Becket through the cloisters into the sanctuary of the cathedral. He resisted, but they succeeded in getting him into the Northwest Transept, which is still known as the Martyrdom. They bolted the door behind them, but the Archbishop commanded it to be unbolted, lest the House of God be made a fortress. He began to make his way up the steps into the choir, where vespers were being sung, but as the knights burst in, he turned to meet them.
There was an altercation and a struggle in the gloom of the Transcept. FitzUrse called Becket “Traitor!”, and Becket retorted with “Pander”. The knights endeavoured in vain to drag the Archbishop out of the church. FitzUrse struck the first blow, a glancing one which injured the arm of an attendant monk. Tracey followed, and Le Breton smote the Archbishops skull with such violence that his sword was shattered on the stone of the pavement. Becket fell to the ground and was dispatched. The fourth knight, de Moreville, who had not struck a blow, was keeping back the townspeople who were pouring in from the knave. After the deed, the knights rushed out of the cathedral, waving their swords and shouting, “King’s Men…King’s Men”. They pillaged the palace, and rode away to South Malling, near Lewes, where he had a manor. From thence they withdrew to Yorkshire, and took refuge in de Moreville’s castle at Knaresborough. (Barham Family History)
“Christendom was outraged while the King publicly expressed remorse and engaged in public confession and penance” (Wikipedia – Reginal Fitzurse.) All four knights were excommunicated by the Pope on Easter day and were sentenced to do a pigrimage to the Holy Land. There is mixed evidence about what happened to Reginald after that. Some sources say that he died soon after in the Holy Land, while others state that returned to Ireland where he founded the McMahon clan.
The rest of the family became increasingly uncomfortable over time with the Fitzurse name. They owned a manor in a hamlet in Kent, England called Barham, which was in fact named after the family. Fitzurse means Son of Bear, and they lived in Bear Hamlet, shortened to Berhem or Barham. It wasn’t long before the family adopted the name “de Berham”, which eventually became Barham.
Barham is my Mother’s maiden name, and unlike “Bell” it is not a very common name. This has made it relatively easy to trace the name back from generation to generation.
So my most famous ancestor murdered an Archbishop and got excommunicated by the Pope. Next week I will talk about a “Barham” meeting a “Frey” and how another excommunication ensued over the wearing of a tie!
What interesting stories lie in your past? Have there been any interesting stories of conflict with the church going back several generations? As always your thoughts, comments, (and of course your own stories) are welcome.
Update: I have had a very busy day at work today with a big project due so I have not been able to comment. I have however been reading all your comments and have absolutely loved your stories!






















