
This is a report from the front lines. The battle. The church. The mess.
On the one hand, I have had a wonderful summer filling in during my pastor’s sabbatical. Sundays, in particular, have been refreshing, as I have led worship, preached, distributed the Sacrament, and shared small talk with the saints around coffee and donuts on bright Lord’s Day mornings..
But as I reflect on that, Sundays have always been wonderful for me. Sundays have been regular moments of peace in the midst of the war. Hearing the Scriptures, singing the hymns and praise songs, joining together in prayer, and coming to the Lord’s Table has always proved to be a “thin place” for me. Not that God always “shows up” in some dramatic way like Jesus did on the Mount of Transfiguration. As I have said here before, Sunday worship with the church has been like “Sunday dinner” to me over the years. That one meal when you could count on most of the clan being there with no agenda other than being together, away from the week’s demands, to enjoy the week’s best meal, to share the week’s happenings within the context of family and friends.
Then comes Monday.
Eugene Peterson is one of the wise people who has clarified for me what pastoral ministry is about “between Sundays” —
But after the sun goes down on Sunday, the clarity diffuses. From Monday through Saturday, an unaccountably unruly people track mud through the holy places, leaving a mess. The order of worship gives way to the disorder of argument and doubt, bodies in pain and emotions in confusion, misbehaving children and misdirected parents. I don’t know what am doing half the time. I am put in situations for which I am not adequate. I find myself attempting tasks for which I have neither aptitude nor inclination. The vision of myself as pastor, so clear in Lord’s Day worship, is now blurred and distorted as it is reflected back from the eyes of people who view me as pawn to their egos. The affirmations I experience in Sunday greetings are now precarious in the slippery mud of put-down and fault-finding.
– The Contemplative Pastor
So I find myself slogging through the mud again — the wet and messy wilderness of daily faith among the people of God and their neighbors. And, right on cue, I discover that the most pressing danger out there does not come from enemy attacks, well-hidden snipers, or artillery barrages. No, the enemy’s onslaughts don’t do half the damage that we do to ourselves through our failures, big and small, to love one another.
The fact that we can “do church” on Sundays is no indication that we have a clue about what it means to “be church” in daily life and relationships.
This is not a blame game. I am as clueless as anyone else.
Just as in most of life, we do fine and things go smoothly until there is a crisis, a disagreement, a conflict.
Then we don’t know what to do with our anger, our hurt, our disappointment.
If we somehow work up enough self-control to guard our tongues, we burn with resentment and frustration.
When we can’t contain our words, we speak unwisely and uncharitably, little realizing the damage we are doing.
We don’t listen well.
We lick our wounds and snarl when someone tries to approach us to tend them.
When it might be good to speak, we find ourselves intimidated into silence.
We lose trust and gain suspicion.
We cannot begin to put a good spin on the words and actions of others, and if someone does speak up in their defense, we scoff and refuse to give them any benefit of the doubt.
[This, by the way, is why I need a Sunday worship service that is more than about “getting high” on Jesus or being challenged to be “radical” for him. I need a service each week that has confession and absolution, in which we sing “Kyrie Eleison”, that reenacts and proclaims the Gospel of forgiveness and new creation, in which someone hands me bread and wine and says, “Christ, given for you”.]
I’m sure someone will read my description of the “mess” that church is and say, “That’s not my church, thank God!” I won’t argue with you, but will simply say, “Give thanks for this season of respite and peace.” Enjoy it. Savor it. Don’t waste it.
But don’t fool yourself into thinking you can lay down enough pavement to keep the rain from turning your path into a muddy mess at least once in awhile. At some point, it’s bound to get ugly.
Then what will you do?