Note from CM: It is Thanksgiving week in the U.S., and I’d like to take each day leading up to the holiday to share a few of the blessings I’m thankful for. I’ve decided this year to focus on some people and things that have had an impact on me personally, so you may find my list a bit quirky. Nevertheless we each have unique factors that have shaped us and made us who we are. You’ll meet a few of mine this week.
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I’m Thankful for Travelin’ Shoes
What do we do, given life?
We move around.
• Stephen Stills & Manassas
I’m thankful that God put me in travelin’ shoes.
Though my mobility is dwarfed by others who have, say, grown up in military families, I have moved fairly often in my life. I tell people that, whereas some folks can describe their life as a novel, mine is more like a book of short stories, each with distinct beginnings and endings.
My dad was in the Navy at sea when I was born. My mom went out to Long Beach, California to welcome him home with her new little bundle, and we lived there for a short time.
The first home I remember was in Galesburg, Illinois, where my school life began. We lived in three houses in that town. I don’t remember the first one, but we moved to the second when I started school. I got my first bee sting crawling under the clothesline and putting my hand down on a bee in the grass while mom was hanging wash. Dad taught me how to ride my bike there, and he caught me with my grandpa’s old catcher’s mitt as I learned to throw a baseball. They gave me my first watch and I set it back and lied about it having stopped when I didn’t want to stop playing and came home late for supper. I stayed up into the wee hours one night with the searing pain of an earache and had my tonsils out while we lived there. I don’t remember any of my friends’ names, but it seems now like I must have been outside playing with them all day, every day. I went to kindergarten at the YMCA and learned to swim as part of it.
Then we moved to a different house, one that was a favorite for me. The small attic had been converted and I had the whole thing for my room. We had the best basketball court in the neighborhood and a two and a half car garage in which we made a haunted house one Halloween. We also walked to school, and I recall one Halloween when I was the Mummy, and most of the sheets I was wrapped up in came loose and fell off by the time I reached the building. Most of all, I remember Mark and Jimmy and other friends, playing wiffleball and war and climbing trees and getting in trouble for breaking the neighbor’s windows and throwing tomatoes at the grumpy old man who lived behind us. Dad took me to high school basketball games and the local team did their warm-up routine to “Sweet Georgia Brown,” just like the Harlem Globetrotters. I explored under the bleachers and picked up change that had fallen so I could buy baseball cards.
That’s where we lived when Roger Maris hit 61 homers and I fell in love with watching Sandy Koufax pitch. That’s where we had the weeping willow in the backyard that was like my own personal “Giving Tree.” Dad brought home a dog for me once. We called him Rusty and he didn’t have a tail. He dug so many holes in the backyard that Mom finally had enough and we took him back to the pound. I used to dress up in my dad’s huge hooded sweatshirt, pull it up over my face and head and run around the backyard until Rusty knocked me down and dug through the fleece until he found my face and licked it. I hung grandpa’s catcher mitt on the back of the garage on a nail and practiced my pitching.
There’s a whole rich chapter in a corner of my mind for that place, even though we only lived there a few years. I was young enough that one Christmas I laid awake in bed and looked out the dormer window of my room at the moon, just waiting for the moment when Santa would ride his sleigh across its path. Our street was still paved with bricks. One time I took the word of a neighbor and thought I could run and find the end of the rainbow and get the pot of gold.
Gosh, I loved that place. A few years ago I went back and met my childhood friend Mark, and it seemed we picked up right where we left off over 50 years ago.
From there we moved back to Dad’s hometown, Dixon, Illinois, famous for being Ronald Reagan’s childhood home. It was great to be near my paternal grandparents. Grandpa suffered with diabetes and had trouble with his eyes, but I was the first grandchild and his pride and joy — he loved having us close. Nothing could be finer than watching the Cubs on TV with my grandpa while he sat in his recliner, muttering through each loss and saying, “One day when you pitch for the Cubs, things’ll be different.”
We rented a two-story house on a busy street and I played in the yard whenever I could. Even if no friends were around, I’d toss the wiffleball up in the air and hit it and play my own ball game. When we moved into the house, I found a treasure. Down in the old cellar, under the coal bin, were cases and cases of old pop bottles. We had a little neighborhood store two streets over from us, and I made several trips to turn those bottles in for the deposit money. I’m sure I spent it all on baseball cards.
We walked to school, and sometimes I would take a shortcut by climbing the wall of the old quarry at the end of the street. Our school was at the top of a large hill. One of the streets near the quarry was our usual route — a long and very steep climb — and when we weren’t trudging up or down it on school days, we would ride our bikes or skateboards down it, faster than I’ve ever gone, as I remember. It really is a wonder we survived.
My best friend in Dixon was Randy, and we went to church as well as school together. The best thing of all was singing in the choir on Wednesdays after school. Rosie, our choir director, was an angel to put up with boys like us, and wow, could she make us laugh. Afterwards, I would walk to grandma and grandpa’s house or home for dinner. I sang my first solo on Palm Sunday one year, from the balcony up on the right, wearing a red robe.
That’s also where my mom introduced me to my first phonograph record: “The Best of the Kingston Trio.” But before long it was the Dave Clark Five and the Beatles and the radio, and there was no looking back. Each week WLS in Chicago came out with a “Silver Dollar Survey,” listing the Top 40. I’d go down to the record store and pick one up on the day it was released. For a long time I saved them (wishing I had them now!). Every day after school I’d play in the yard or on the swingset and listen and sing along as they counted down the top songs. When I could I would buy a 45. I had a friend sleep over one night and we were jumping on the bed when he fell off and broke my new “She’s a Must to Avoid” by Herman’s Hermits. My favorite movie was “Pinocchio” and mom and dad bought me the record that had the storybook with it so I could relive the story at home.
One time I cried and asked to be kept home from school because that day I had to dance with a girl. My favorite indoor game was “sock basketball.” We’d hang a wooden box with the bottom cut out up on the wall in our playroom and shoot a ball of rolled up socks at it. Dad still took me to the high school games — he had been a star at that school. One time they let the YMCA kids play at halftime and I think I missed every shot I took. Dad liked the Drum and Bugle Corps. shows on the football field too. That’s also where I started playing Little League and I used to pitch sidearm. We played on fields by the river and the old Borden milk factory. Occasionally dad and I went fishing, and sometimes I went alone. A good day fishing for me was laying on the bank in the sun, listening to the Cubs on the radio.
Then one day it was off again, to a new life in a new subdivision with new friends in the suburbs of Chicago.
I moved to the Chicago suburbs during the years we used to call “Jr. High.” Now, it’s “Middle School.” My folks built a brand new house in a new subdivision. Dad had been transferred to his company’s office in Wheaton, Illinois. We were on the move again, starting a new adventure. I can still see the tears in my grandfather’s eyes as we drove away.
The community into which we were moving was made up of “immigrants” like us — folks who had come from other places to take jobs in the burgeoning western suburbs of Chicago. Families with baby boom babies like me were filling the subdivisions and schools. I got my first job as a paperboy in our neighborhood. We were in “section three,” which was still under construction. I started in the late fall and remember the panic of watching the late afternoon skies grow dark while I tried to find street signs and addresses on unpaved lanes and cul-de-sacs. I finally gave up, crying, and Dad drove me around and helped me get the papers delivered.
The school I attended was not one of the newer “Jr. Highs” but a K-8 elementary school. We had a dress code, and I was sent home the first day to change because I wore blue jeans. For boys, hair had to be neatly trimmed above the ears, collared shirts tucked in and belts worn. No sneakers were allowed. Girls had rules about skirt length and make-up was forbidden, as I recall.
I entered the school just as we were all being immersed in adolescence. Thrown together like refugees on a ship, we became close, so close that today, over forty years later, we who lived through those junior (and then senior) high years still feel like best friends, and we reunite whenever we can.
From Chicago, several years later, we moved east and everything was different. That move initiated new chapters and additional journeys to places I’d never dreamed. But those are other stories for another day. Maryland, Pennsylvania, Vermont, then back to Chicago, and to Indianapolis and central Indiana, where we’ve now lived longer than anywhere else. This past January, we returned to the country here in the heartland and are writing the next chapter.
As one who has moved a lot throughout my life, I’ve developed an ongoing, nagging sense of “What’s next?” As I said, my life has not so much been a novel as it has been a book of short stories, each with a definite beginning, middle, and ending. The characters in each tale continue to live in my mind as they did when I knew them. They don’t cross into the other worlds and the other experiences of my life, they exist within distinct ecosystems that somehow each remain unique and special inside of me. Life has been a wonderful journey of moving through these separate stories, each one holding its own meaning and significance. It’s hard for me to fathom that one day the book will end, the final chapter will be written, and the cast of characters in that final story will take their last bow.
Until then, I thank God that he gave me travelin’ shoes.
3 thoughts on “I’m Thankful for Travelin’ Shoes”
being a military brat (Navy), we also moved around a LOT . . . . even from coast to coast, from the Northwest city of Seattle to Staten Island to San Diego to Norfolk VA and back to California and on and on . . . .
but occasionally, we visited in the little North Carolina town of my mother’s people: Plymouth, a sweet little world of people who knew who they were and they knew each other and could quote their ancestries back to forever . . . and I visited with my cousins who never traveled but had the deep roots and the confidence that came with those roots, the Ausbons, the Jacksons, the Spruills, the Normans, the Batemans, the Anges, the whole town was related to one another it seemed.
I wondered even as a young girl if I envied my cousins for their ‘perfect’ summer dresses and hair in the midst of a steamy North Carolina summer, where I melted and wilted as my genetics longed for the far northern cooler climates of my father’s people;
and maybe for a time, I did admire their ‘coolness’ and calm demeanors and how the front rooms of family homes were perfectly turned out at all times for that was their way and that is how they lived. But I would have missed so much. They didn’t have the image of Mt. Rainier in their memories, always visible wherever we were in Seattle, and they didn’t know the ferry ride to NYC and the class visits to the great museums with the dinosaur skeletons and the glass-enclosed dioramas filled with dead stuffed animals that had once lived in other lands . . . . and those long drives across the continental USA . . . which should not be missed by any American during their life time . . .
if we are in some way the sum of our experiences, I am the better for mine in some ways, and my content cousins are better off in some ways . . . in their own world in that sweet little town on a North Carolina river . . . . but I wonder at their composure and their calm in those lovely old houses that remind me so of the ‘dioramas’ of a museum where time has stopped and all is still and calmed. . . . . did I the vagabond cousin have the better way with all its wonders along my own journeys? 🙂 I am content with my lot. And, yes, grateful for it all in retrospect.
I’ll come back to read this article later, but first I wanted to say that I’m thankful for the Internet Monk website. I’m also thankful for the three Mikes — Chaplain Mike, Mike the Geo and Mike Bell — and Daniel Jepsen (and the periodic guests), who share their thoughts, insights and humor with us.
Thanks, you who make this place special to some of us.
CM, good thoughts and writing. I agree with you and think that it is good that your life travels each are a distinct ecosystem that stand alone in your memory index. In my life memory bank, I divide my life into sections, knowing they are interconnected but each time period stand alone ..
We all know the final shared destination we have in common and that is the journey that is our life. I have to remind myself to live in the “now” and enjoy where I am at now.
I am still trying to figure out why schools dropped the dress code but that is just the musings of a child of the late 50’s and 60’s. As the old hymn says, there is no turning back.
I have traveled a lot in my life, not so much moving but traveling which is different. As it is evident in your writing “home” is where the heart is.
One of my favorite songs is Thanks for the Memories, the Bob Hope theme song. He would always adapt the lyrics to fit where he was or had been. Even in its original form the lyrics are good and have meaning.
Your article also prompts me to remember life is what you make it. As Wilder said , you can never go home again, because that is the way life rolls but you can recall the memories of that ecosystem of your life.
Which leads me to think of the play Our Town, which was a mainstay of many a high school play, popular play on Broadway and a major movie. It was a small town Americana and life’s journey. It would not be relevant to many people today which speaks to how the individual journey changes due to progress and inevitable change.
Thanks for sharing your memories, they resonant with me.