By Chaplain Mike
Consider this a follow-up to last week’s discussion on Bill Gothard and the related topics that were brought up in the comment thread, such as patriarchy, homeschooling, courtship, separatism, rules-based spirituality, and so on.
It seems the post uncovered a lot of hurt, confusion, and questions. In our comments we heard from several folks who had grown up under one form or another of patriarchal teaching and others who wondered about these movements and what they involve.
For example, the following words came from Donna (who also blogs at The View from My Window):
To make a super long story just a little shorter, my parents bought into Bill Gothard’s teachings, pulled us out of school, and homeschooled us in his cultic homeschool program (ATI). I missed out on getting a high school diploma and was forbidden to attend college. I even wanted to go to an ultra-conservative Bible College and they refused to allow me to go. I went with the organization on several missions trips and then served time at the Indianapolis Training Center. During my time a way from home, my eyes were open to the religious noose I’d been experiencing for so many years. I ended up meeting a man “on the outside†that scared my parents to death. We tried to do the courtship thing as they wished, but it turned into an absolute mess. At the age of 24, after physical threats and complete suffocation, (my mom asked me to commit to remain single for life and stay under their authority at home) a pastor in Indianapolis encouraged me to move out.
Fast forwarding over the past 14 years… I am married with three gorgeous children and I’m experiencing freedom in Jesus and am learning that my Heavenly Father loves me and has only the best intentions for me.
There were many, many others who added their own stories about themselves, their families, friends, and churches who have been caught up in these movements and who found them spiritually deadening and in some cases abusive.
Today, on my customary look at Christianity Today, I saw they have posted a book review of Quivering Daughters
, by Hillary McFarland. I have not read this book yet, but after our recent discussion, my own reflections on some of the folks I have known in the past who have been taken in by these teachings, and the content of the review, I’m going to get it soon.
In the meantime, I’d like to use the CT review as an opportunity for further discussion on this matter. We welcome your stories, reflections, and perspectives. How pervasive are these movements? What are you seeing of their influence where you live? Perhaps you are even an advocate of one form or another of patriarchy as it is practiced in some of these groups. State your case.
For preparation, you can go read the review for yourself, but I will also summarize its points here to prompt our conversation. As you will see below, I’ve also included a link to a blog that exists to answer and debunk McFarland’s point of view. Feel free to read the counter-arguments too.
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