
Apart from such external things, there is the daily pressure on me of concern for all the churches.
– 2 Corinthians 11:28 NASB
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When I read about the Apostle Paul’s sufferings, I find it hard to relate.
2 Corinthians 11 is Paul’s resumé of his sufferings in the service of Christ. There, he writes about being imprisoned and being beaten more times than he can count. Three times he reports having found himself shipwrecked. Hey, I saw Life of Pi — that is no cakewalk, tiger or no tiger! The apostle was exposed to countless dangerous and life-threatening situations including being without food, water, and shelter, the most basic necessities of life. Paul suffered exposure, people. About the only exposure I’ve ever suffered is when the clean laundry didn’t get brought upstairs and I’ve had to sneak downstairs wrapped in a towel to retrieve it. Not Paul. As an apostle, he trekked long distances on foot on dangerous roads, and in no way was it comfortable. Along the way he had to ward off wild animals and thieves and nurse an overtaxed body while sleeping on the ground under the stars. He had to deal with the challenges of all kinds of terrain and weather and seasons.
Paul also dealt with a host of interpersonal challenges and sufferings. He didn’t just face competition from the church down the street, he had to escape slander, smear campaigns, and plots on his life from false teachers who proved to be his literal enemies. As part of a new religious sect, he faced misunderstanding, ridicule, and persecution from every side — not Jewish enough for the observant Jews, not Gentile enough for the pagans.
Paul suffered, folks. Real suffering. When he says in 2 Cor. 4:11, “We who live are constantly being delivered over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh,” he is not speaking metaphorically. The words “I die daily” (1 Cor. 15:31) are not about dying to self, or some other such “spiritual” nonsense. Paul literally and actually laid his life on the line every day so that others might live through Christ.
I’ll be honest. I know nothing — absolutely nothing — about that kind of suffering. I’m not sad about that, and I’m not about to go seeking it.
However, this list of sufferings for Christ’s sake has something else in it to which I can relate:
Apart from such external things, there is the daily pressure on me of concern for all the churches.
That is a breathtaking statement. First, the Apostle Paul calls all of those traumatic experiences of suffering we just discussed merely “external things.” Friends, if I went through only one of those trials, in the celebrity Christian culture we have today I’d be set for life with book contracts and appearances on every Christian media outlet. Churches would invite me to speak and market my appearance: “Come hear the amazing story of the man who spent a day and night in the deep! Learn what it means to risk it all for God!”
An external thing, says Paul. The normal kind of bump or bruise one should expect when following a crucified Savior.
But now, he continues, let’s talk about the real suffering, the real challenge. I can’t stop thinking about the people in the church. Every single day there is this huge weight on my shoulders, my heart, and my mind; a weight of anxiety and concern. I worry about them. I’m preoccupied with their well being. I’m afraid they are going to be led astray. I fear they’re going to make stupid choices and fall into sin. I can’t escape this sense of responsibility, “the daily pressure of my anxious concern for all the congregations” (CJB).
Well sure, I can relate to that. I don’t know a sentence in the Bible that sums up what it feels like to be a pastor better than that one. And it is this “daily pressure” that is one of the facts I have to deal with in my own heart and mind as I discern God’s will for my choice of vocation in the months ahead.
Right now, I serve as a hospice chaplain. When a person hears that, he or she often responds to me with a visceral reaction: “I don’t know how you can do that.” There is a notion that working in hospice, with those who are dying, being around death and loss and sadness and grief all the time must simply suck the life out of a person. Folks on the outside looking in think it must be so emotional, so draining, so hard.
That has not been my experience. On the contrary, working in hospice has provided me with an emotional respite. Compared to working in the church, working in hospice is an emotional relief. I have found it deeply satisfying and life-affirming to support people at such a significant time in their lives. It is emotionally taxing for them. It is hard for them. For me, it’s a privilege.
Now certainly, our team members make connections and grieve and find the work heavy at times too. But in the end, these are not our families, our loved ones, our shared histories, our lives, our regrets, or the things we left unsaid. At times, hospice workers are likened to “angels” and the comparison may be apt. We are “messengers,” sent at an important time to minister in the moment. We may have intense interactions with people, but at the close of the day we get in our cars and go home.
Not so with shepherds (pastors). As I’ve said often, being a pastor in a local congregation is like being the owner-operator of a small business. It is something you never leave and something which never leaves you. The operation requires constant attention and focus. “The daily pressure of anxious concern” is what fills your heart and mind.
It’s all coming back to me these days, even with my current limited involvement in pastoral ministry.
I’m only a couple of weeks into my summer of helping my home church while our pastor is on sabbatical. I lead worship and preach on Sunday. I am helping out with church work on Fridays. That’s all. Pulpit supply and a bit of pastoral care and oversight. Two days a week. And I’ve been at it for a couple of weeks now.
But I’m already feeling it — the daily pressure of anxious concern.
With each interaction I learn more about problems in the church, thoughts and feelings people have regarding various matters, needs that are not being met, folks who are struggling, work that is going undone. I’m trying to remember names, engage people in conversation, build relationships. I’m trying to get a handle on the big picture of what’s happening in the congregation so I can preach with sympathy and insight.
I go to work most days for hospice, but I’m a “double-minded man, unstable in all [my] ways” much of the time. I told a friend I don’t know how bi-vocational pastors do it. I told my wife I know why Paul recommended the single life.
Do I want this? Can I do this? Is this the best thing for me, my family, the Church, the Kingdom? Am I ready to spend the rest of my career riding the emotional roller coaster of serving in parish ministry?
Paul’s description of “pastoral suffering” may lie at the heart of my discernment process.
Daily. Pressure. Anxious. Concern. The Church.
Maybe I should just go out and ask for a good flogging, or get in a shipwreck.
This stuff ain’t for sissies.